It’s sad when…

As a woman of reproductive age, I think it’s really sad when articles like this make me say “amen.”

 

Oh mittens…

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“I didn’t know you had families,” remarked Romney to the group, according to Wilson.

So what do GLBT people have if they don’t have families?  Are they just so chock full of the gay agenda  that they have no room for family?

Oh god.  In X years, school children will learn how backwards the states were and judge us exactly how we judge the generations that thought lynching and racial discrimination were ok.

Dear god, have mercy. At least, I’ll be able to tell my kids that I did my damnest to change it.  So raise a glass to changing things, so I can tell my kids that I was part of the generation that changed things.

Taylor Swift

I don’t really like Taylor Swift, and it isn’t really all her fault.  I think she’s pretty and has a mainstream pretty kind of voice.  But, she’s really just the product of her producers,her agent, and her song writers who are working together to sell a specific image to her consumers.

I’ve picked three songs she sings that highlight why I don’t like her.  The first is Better Than Revenge.   A couple of gems from this song are.

“The story starts when it was hot and it was summer
And, I had it all; I had him right there where I wanted him
She came along, got him alone, and let’s hear the applause
She took him faster than you could say sabotage”

“She underestimated just who she was stealing from”

“Soon she’s gonna find
Stealing other people’s toys on the playground
Won’t make you many friends”

Boys(or girls) aren’t possessions. We don’t own them.  They make a conscious choice to be with them, romantically or otherwise, or they choose not to be with them.  They aren’t stolen because the otherwise attached person can always say no thanks and apparently chooses not to.

The next song I’d like to talk about is Fifteen.  There is really only one line in this song that irks me.

“Back then I swore I was gonna marry him someday
But I realized some bigger dreams of mine
And Abigail gave everything she had
To a boy who changed his mind
And we both cried”

This thinly veiled reference to Abigail’s sexual debut really makes me go twitchy.  It just reinforces stereotypes around virginity and (mostly womens) sexuality that really do no good.  You are so much more than who you sleep with.  Your virginity is not everything you have.  It’s actually a really small part of you.

The last song is something she’s been critqued for a fuckton in recentish history, but I still wanna talk about it.  Picture to Burn.

“State the obvious, I didn’t get my perfect fantasy
I realize you love yourself more than you could ever love me
So go and tell your friends that I’m obsessive and crazy
That’s fine I’ll tell mine that you’re gay”

This pretty much speaks for itself.  Either he’s actually gay and Taylor is threatening to out him, which is douchebaggey, or he’s calling him gay because being gay is one of the worst insults you can call a man, outside of being called a girl, that is.

I think the world is ending.

One million moms and I agree on something. Urban Outfitters is a bad influence.  Of course, I think Urban Outiftters is a bad influence for very different reasons than OMM does.  You see, urban outfitters has a really bad track record with GLBT rights and marriage equality. 

God, the world is going to end in no time.

As a related note, I only visit the OMM website to know how which businesses I want to support and what TV shows might be up my alley.

This pretty well speaks for itself

“Men should be offended when someone claims that women should prevent rape by not going certain places or acting a certain way.

That line of thinking presumes that you are incapable of control.  That you are so base and uncivilized that it takes extraordinary amount of effort for you to walk down the street without raping someone that you require certain dress code to be maintained, that certain behaviors be employed so that maybe today, just maybe, you won’t rape someone.

It presumes that your natural state is rapist.”

rape and lessons learned

There have been a several rapes and assaults in town since school started, and by several, I mean like three.  Two were at frat houses and one was a stranger assault on the street.  I’m reading a reddit thread about the recent attacks and unsurprisingly someone mentioned the college girl who went missing summer 2011, whose case is still unresolved.

The upsetting part to me is that I think <insert missing girl> is not on people’s minds still. What are girls still doing walking home at 2 AM from the bars by themselves? If anything it seems like we haven’t learned much from the situation and it seems like history is doomed to repeat itself.

Honestly, I learned a lot from her disappearance.  I learned that even in my idyllic town, bad things happen.  I learned that if I ever went missing and my mom had to pack up my apartment she’d have a whole box of sex toys, that I have no idea what she’d do with.  I learned not to judge a situation before it’s resolved.  But most of all, I learned there is -nothing- gained by running scared, because when you run scared, you let the bad guys win.

So, I was reading this article and the correlating reddit comments and one of the comments seriously made me go a bit twitchy.

While I find this article offensive on many levels – I think he is right about one thing- why don’t they work on making better formulas? Some mothers do need it for a variety of legitimate reasons and I think doing all we can to get it as close as possible to breast milk can only be good.

I read this and the very first thing I thought of was “legitimate rape.”  Abortion, breast feeding, birth control,  and a thousand other things don’t need legitmizing.  They are personal decisions based on a variety of factors.  Because you work 12 hour days and come home exhausted and don’t have the energy to breast feed is a legitimate reason to use formula, just like if your body doesn’t make milk.

How you choose to feed your child(ren) when they are babies is your choice, and no one should be demonized for it.  I admit, this is something I personally kind of struggle with when I see young(almost teenage) mothers buying formula at the store, but I have to remember, I’m not in their shoes and while when I have children, come hell or high water I’ll breastfeed for a good long time, that isn’t everyones prerogative and that’s ok.  It doesn’t have to be.

Whether it’s birth control, abortion, breastfeeding, or formula feeding  we don’t need to legitimize the use of any of those things because my legitimate isn’t your legitimate.

Ann Romneys Speech…

Ann romney spoke at the Republican National Convention in Tampa this weekend.  I came across her speech here and I have some opinions about it. 

Every single time she talks about women, they’re mothers.  Every. Single. Time.  Are women in her world anything but mothers? 

I’m not sure if men really understand this, but I don’t think there’s a woman in America who really expects her life to be easy. In our own ways, we all know better!

And that’s fine. We don’t want easy.

I wouldn’t mind easier, personally.  Not that I have a problem with working, because I don’t, but I do have a problem with working harder than the man who has the same qualifications as me.

I read somewhere that Mitt and I have a “storybook marriage.” Well, in the storybooks I read, there were never long, long, rainy winter afternoons in a house with five boys screaming at once. And those storybooks never seemed to have chapters called “MS” or “Breast Cancer.”

She’s right, no ones storybook marriage includes MS or cancer, but I’d imagine those are both far easier pills to swallow when your husband is worth 230 million dollars.  However those five screaming boys, that’s all on her.  Jesus made birth control for a reason(and I’m thinking she should have used it, since they now have 18 grandchildren.)

Today that company has become another great American success story.

And by American success story you mean the kind of success story that invested in firms that profit on the outsourcing of American jobs?

Fucking Gold

This is fucking gold.  That is all.

All you Indiana Residents!

HJR-6 is a proposed constitutional amendment amendment that seeks to narrowly define marriage in Indiana.

Here is what it will do to GLBT persons in Indiana.

• Prevent any future attempts to allow for same-sex marriage
• Eliminate health care benefits for same-sex partnerships
• Eliminate legally binding documents for same-sex couples that are “substantially similar to marriage” such as wills and trusts
• Eliminate inheritance laws from being applied to same-sex couples
• Eliminate hospital visitation rights

Allow that to sink in for a moment and then click here for more information if this is relevant to you.