I’ve been busy in the past week or two.
Archive for February, 2012
So….It’s been a while.
I’ve taken up an offer of ownership by a dom in the past month or so. I thought for a really long time before I accepted, but what I thought about might be a different blog post. Not this post, try again later.
Anyway, I’ve come to really accept the importance of community. Earlier this week, I was having some doubts about my d/s relationship and I talked to three or four people in my kinky network. Not so much looking for advice, but just looking for a safe place to ramble.
And this got me thinking about the importance of community. Community creates a sort of transparency I think. The same thing that enabled me to ramble through my issues enables doms to ramble through their issues. It creates a safety net of sorts. One that helps catch subpar doms, and subs that aren’t committed. It’s a safety net I wouldn’t want to live without.
If you’re kinky and don’t have a place to ramble about your kinky related issues, dear god find one.
Emma Watson
“I find the whole concept of being “sexy”embarrassing and confusing. If I do an interview with photographs people desperately want to change me-dye my hair blonder, pluck my eyebrows, give me a fringe. Then there is the choice of clothes. I know everyone wants a picture of me in a mini-skirt. It’s nothing to do with protecting the Hermione image. I wouldn’t d that. Personally, I don’t actually think it’s even that sexy. What’s sexy about saying, ‘I’m here with my boobs out and a short skirt, have a look at everything I’ve got?’ My idea of sexy is that less is more. The less you reveal the more people can wonder.”-Emma Watson
My apartment complex seems to think that because my heat is off in the midwest USA, in February my pipes will freeze. Let me explain to you why they won’t.
A) I’m in an upstairs apartment.
B) I share two walls with other peoples apartments, whom I presume have the heat on still.
C) I take very long hot baths at least once a day, and therefore have hot water moving through my pipes with regularity.
D) It is simply not that cold out. It isn’t below freezing with regularity.
As an asside, if my pipes freeze- then 8 apartments worth of pipes should freeze. Therefore it isn’t my fault.
Love Conquers All?
Inequality and the workplace
The workplace is unequal pretty much everywhere, to varying degrees. Minorities and women are hired less often than caucasian men. How do we solve it? Well one suggestion we offered in class was ending the world, then no one gets hired. that’s fair, right?
In one of my classes today, my professor used the phrase “risky sex” in the context of STI/Pregnancy risk. The first thing I thought of when I heard this phrase was kinky sex sort of risky.
I prefer RACK to SSC for lots of reasons. I think that RACK is clearer and more accurate. I’ll break it down though. Both phrases, used commonly by people in the kinky community convey more or less the same message, but again, I think RACK is better.
Risk Aware, all players involved acknowledge that there is risk and are aware of the risk associated with said activities. Everything is a risk. What is the risk of this kind of impact play? Are we minimizing the risk connected with this electrical play? What is the risk of those nipple clamps? What is the risk of having kinky sex with that person? Will this person respect my limits and provide appropriate aftercare?
Consensual is something both phrases have in common. Consent is so important. Consent is sexy. No means no, all the time. It isn’t a no in disguise. But a no doesn’t necessarily mean a no to all activities. Maybe just penetration, or oral, or impact, anal or fart play. Communication is key, kids.
Safe and sane. Safe suggests that sex of any kind is a risk negative, or risk neutral activity. Sex is -never- a risk negative or risk neutral activity. Kinky sex even more so. Though, most reasonable people would read this as the safest way possible to do a given activity. I think the word safe is too vague. For some people blood play is perfectly safe form of play. For me, and most kinksters I know, Blood is totally off limits. I think sane is also too vague. Again what is sane for me, is totally insane for other people.
Kink! Everyone loves kink right?
Whichever saying you prefer in your kinky activity, RACK, SSC, or one of your own invention remember to communicate!