11
Jan
14

Discontentment

Sometimes, in relationships, you have this aching discomfort when you aren’t getting what you need from them.  And sometimes, that’s ok.  

It’s ok to sit with that feeling.  Think on it.  Evaluate it.  Ask yourself if you’re overreacting, if it will go away on it’s own when your partner deals with X important thing, is it even their fault and if not, can they even fix it?  Would hearing “I love you.” and a date night make it all better?  Is it something that you should be fixing for yourself?

And if it does come to telling your partner “I’m feeling X and I need Y from you.” Make sure that you figure out the best way to do that without making them feel like it’s all their fault.

 

 

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1 Response to “Discontentment”


  1. January 12, 2014 at 1:02 am

    We were listening to a Jaiya podcast the other day and her partner D-Love made a comment that really resonated, in that you should talk about the need, but not the strategy. …I need to feel respected, vs I need you to be on time. Just a thought. I definitely love letting a feeling marinate, but at the end of the day, you’re not changing another person, only choosing to accept your reality, or creating a new one.


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