Casting Crowns- Just Another Birthday

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“Sixteen finds me
Blowing out candles and making wishes
And all around me
Is everyone but the one I’m wishing for
And he sent me flowers
And gift-wrapped excuses
From a daddy whose daughter
Wants to see him again

And I know, I know
It’s just another birthday
But I guess I thought
This would be the one
When he would call me, see me
Hold me and free me
But it’s just another birthday

And I’ll be fine
I’ll be fine

Nineteen finds me
And I’m wild-eyed and wide open
I gave myself away to love
But backseat promises fade like a mist
I’m screaming at the midnight air
Everyone hears me but I don’t care
My heart’s clenched just like a fist
‘Cause, people, I didn’t ask for any of this
And I’m not fine
I’m not fine

In the company of strangers
In a cold and sterile room
All alone with a child inside me
And I don’t know what to do
Jesus, can You hear me
Come and heal my brokenness
Put the pieces back together
And be a Father to the fatherless

Twenty-one finds me
Blowing out candles and making wishes
And all around me
My barefoot princess twirls and sings
It’s so amazing
Looking back at all God’s brought us through
You are my happy birthday
And you were born to break the chains

Now I know, I know
It’s not just another birthday
‘Cause I’m here, she’s here
And look how far we’ve come
Since you’ve called me, saw me
Held me and freed me
Thank you, Lord, for another birthday
And we’ll be fine
We’ll be fine”

Allow me to count the ways this is freaking offensive.  The band Casting Crowns does a whole lot of songs about daughters who grow up with shitty fathers, and they all send the same message to kids with shitty fathers.  “I’m supposed to be a fuck up(until of course, Jesus takes pity on your fucked upness)” When you send this message to kids with dysfunctional family relationships, we shouldn’t be surprised when they grow up to become fuck ups.

Having a shitty parent doesn’t define you, it doesn’t define what you become.  The vast majority of kids with mostly absent parents grow up just fine, and you as a person with a shitty father you’re not that special.  Please, please don’t blame the fact that your parents didn’t love you enough for whatever bad things happened in your adult life.  Assume some personal responsibility.


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